I understand you may need your spouse to make some changes, but you do not have control over that. If you focus on his/her behavior, instead of your own, it can often create a larger problem. You may have already realized that the more you push, beg, plead, criticize or insist, the more likely the opposite of what you want occurs. 
As a matter of fact, you can actually be in the way of progress!

Of course you can't COMPLETELY take your focus off of your husband/wife because love includes how one acts towards the other.

Read about how you can create change in others by changing your own behavior. Apply these 5 ways to become an instrument of restoration to create change in your relationship, and restore love in your marriage.